Sue Moon’s Blog

The struggle for honesty in relationships is an old issue.  I’m not so sure it hasn’t been worn out.  At least the part where people tell each other, “I’m just being honest, if you are offended, that’s your problem.”  Hmmm, as with all of life the contrasts are so telling; black and white, love and codependence, male & female.  Is it being honest to place wounding from the past on a current situation that has nothing to do with the old?  Is it being honest to spew forth old resentments to a current situation?  Maybe it is impossible not to.

I think it is a little like mental masturbation.  It doesn’t have anything to do with the other person.  Just ruminating through old issues that keep coming forward to be healed.

Responsibility is another struggle with unsolved issues.  What is a person’s responsibility in what they say to another?

I think that forgiveness of our past is integral for any healthy relationship.  And forgiveness opens us up to the long process of rage, sorrow and grief.  Forgiveness does not mean we condone the past hurts but rather we simply let go of past pain and hatred.  Then through the soft energy of kindness we are free from the pain and repetition, we no longer need to carry our pain into our future relationships.

Is there any other game in town?