The Blame Game
When I was in my twenties I wanted to blame someone for why I wasn’t happy/rich etc, so I looked to my parents and saw all of their failings and decided it was their fault. Fortunately I outgrew that and woke up enough to realize we all create our own reality by the thoughts we choose to think, it is always a choice. Although my own children never blamed me for their problems (that I know of), I have assumed some guilt for their struggles and wished I had been a better parent. Now, I don’t feel that way as I look at the relationship dance that all human beings go through and how we grow by looking closer at ourselves, assuming full responsibility and accountability.
Today I opened the email and found the below comment and it made me laugh out loud……….thought you might like it too.
“Question: My grown son still blames me for having caused him pain when he was growing up, and he keeps bringing it up when we are together. I know I could have done things better, but I can’t go back and change the past. Is there anything I can do here?
J-R: You could tell him that if you have caused him any pain, he is smart enough now to get over it and make it an experience from which he can gain much wisdom.”
- John-Roger
(From: Fulfilling Your Spiritual Promise, p. 1115)
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